Laws of Attraction- Monagomy or Hit It And Quit It

It's a rather complicated thing -Liking someone. It's easy for it to happen but the act of liking can be tricky since there's more involved than just being fascinated or turned on. Have you ever met someone and after talking to them or seeing them engage with others you were instantly smitten? We can relate to this and it happens ALL the time. As humans we have a need to bond. It would be so much easier & better if we liked someone and they equally showed similar interest. As we wake up from our fantasies we realize it's not that simple and quite unrealistic & unsatisfactory. It comes as a challenge and it must be earned.
So let me explain the earning part. If you've ever argued with someone and it felt like you were talking to a wall then this sums up the point. It is nearly impossible to be into someone without him/her feeling the same way because it hurts. I see this all the time in "going nowhere" relationships with us 20-30+ year olds. If I'm the only female on this green earth that says it I'm going to be the one to say, "If the guy doesn't like you he's not going to pursue you. If the chick doesn't like you she's not going to show any interest." It is truly and unfathomably that simple. We complicate things because we over-think all the time about everything. Trust me, life would be just as interesting and amazing if you just take things at face value. There is a difference between enjoying life and misinterpreting "drama" as having a good time. 

For two people to like each other they find something in common or of interest in the other that draws them together. When it's the opposite it is like Looney Tune's notorious skunk Pepe Le Pew and his reluctant apple of his eye, kitty Penelope Pussycat. Someone is literally chasing the other and it becomes a terrifying ordeal as the other tries to get as far away as possible -running for the hills. You can't just go after your crush, infatuation, or love-interest with the delusion you're going to get what you want. Unless you're shadowed by your own desire, you must earn their interest! 

Watching Millionaire Matchmaker

I actually understand why it’s important for women to be smart about who they  open their legs for. There are men out in this world who are perfectly ‘fine’ with sleeping with woman after woman, one after the other, and never commit to any. Generalizing I look at these types of men as irresponsible, ‘douche’ bags, who are not capable of going to the next step in their manhood. Then I think about it again and realize there are men in the world who are not made to be husbands and fathers, which is unfortunate. God created us all to need each other and to bond. But they truly just like the accessibility. Why it is important for women to not fall for their charms and bullshit is so she doesn’t ruin her life supposedly by getting pregnant by this type of man. She won’t have to worry excessively about him walking out and leaving her to raise the child on her own. Men like these are afraid and cowar from commitment for whatever reason. They will never claim monogamy.

If a woman doesn’t receive the commitment of monogamy from a man then he is not ‘marriage’ material. Marriage takes 2. If a man never says it or claims her as his priority anything that happens falls on her. People of today act as though this is ‘ancient’ and not modern, but I would like someone to explain why modern would mean women believing a man loves them and the minute there’s a difference in opinion or disagreement he bounces?!? Or why it’s the smart option to just ‘sleep around’ until the right one comes along –the Cinderella with the glass slipper syndrome or the Goldilocks and the Three Bears syndrome. By the time the right one comes along emotions have been pushed to the highest they can go- mistrust, dishonesty, bitterness, rebounding, and judgment that any hope of giving the RIGHT ONE a chance is nearly impossible. Then he/she has to worry about getting themselves ‘therapy’ for all the shit they went through or put themselves through because they did it completely wrong. Seems like the common issue these days.

No one is capable of loving or giving of themselves to another. There’s compromise and sacrifice that comes with loving someone else and sharing your life with them. When it’s all for the right reasons it doesn’t feel like you’re ‘giving up’ anything because both people are working together as one. I still believe in love and compatibility. Too many of us are meeting our complete opposites and incompatibles and believing it is ‘LOVE’ when it’s just our competitive sides wanting to ‘win the fight’. Conquering the opposing force, and it’s just fucking stupid. It’s not a video game where you can turn the power off and put the controller away. It’s real life with REAL consequences that can affect the rest of your life with court, money, and children. I see this ALL the time.

We have this need to defeat the odds and prove the wrong right. Sometimes, it is opposing because it’s not meant to be. What comes to mind also are age gaps like 10-15 years in between, 18 years old and a 20 something year old.  If two people come together and like each other, that’s their choice. They know what they’re getting themselves into. But it stays there unless proven otherwise. The minute it becomes serious will determine if the romp, tryst, liaison will last or continue. Once reality hits you realize, you need to stop ‘kidding’ yourself. What did you expect?!? What comes with age is perspective, priority, responsibility, and vision towards life that is not considered so strongly at a younger age. The older you get the more you realize the clock is ticking and how much time you have left. It’s always fun to do something unconventional and naughty for the looks it gives or the bad-ness it makes you feel, but at the end of the day the dream will end and you wake up. Life tells you that you got important things you need to do or your ass will be homeless, unemployed, and wondering what to do next.