Behind the Shiny Glass
We’re so quick to sit back and get jealous over
Entertainers, Performers, Celebrities, and those of the likeness. Do we ever
stop to think what could really be going on? Just because they’re on tv looking
exceptionally sexy and handsome, appearing on numerous tv shows, going to the
flyist destination spots we would just love to go to, doesn’t mean life is easy
for them. Remember they’re working for money just like we do every day. The
only difference is we see them “publicly” everywhere. That is the sacrifice
they make. We need to understand unless we can individually make the same
sacrifices of working hour to hour- nonstop on certain days, making numerous
appearances, eat nor sleep hours in between, and be separated from your family
and friends traveling from state to state or country to country and still keep a
“professional” and happy smile on your face then see how well you will do. I think it was interpreted best at Whitney Houston’s
funeral when her brother stated,
I don’t know what
it’s like so I’m trying to view underneath the cover or veil. We need to be
more sensitive and compassionate. They are not robots or auto-bots. They’re
real living people like you and me. We don’t know if they go to these exclusive
resorts and hot islands just to work.
They may not have a chance to enjoy the surroundings or activities to the
fullest because their assignment may be to involve the location. The most fun
they probably get out of it is getting
done-up, incorporating the destination in their work, or filming a music video in the spot. Yes, we hear about the clubs
and parties in abundance. So they’re getting out and having fun that way. Guests of the night. Amenities
in over-flow. So that’s living the good life! But what we also know is that
these parties and gatherings they’re also networking and forming bonds with
others who work in the same industry. Everyone comes out at night and want to
party. So why not have a location set-up like a party that will attract any and
everybody. There you have it! Everyone under one roof.
We’ve heard famous stars
admit they do not like to party and stay out all night. It is not the life for
everyone especially when you’ve done it so much you’ve worn yourself out. The responsibilities
of having children and a family is another reason. So they are human too, just
like us. Hollywood equals big money, which means working round the clock. There’s
no way anyone could live their “high-life” working a minimum wage job or any of
these well-paying jobs out here. You can live well in nice neighborhoods but to
live luxuriously on a daily basis you must work big to make big money. Big
bosses and big businesses are the closest associations on the spectrum.
I’m not declaring or advocating in being THE Spokesperson
for the Rich and the Famous. I don’t
live their lives or know what goes on but we need to stop and think first
before assuming what we “see” truly is the real thing. We wouldn’t want others
to perceive our lives with false pretense. Think about when you watch
performers on tv doing tricks and dancing. It looks easy as pie but that’s what
hard work looks like. Effortless. Think about the amount of time, practice, and
dedication it took just to make it look that way. Perfect. I believe in the
saying, everything is not always as it seems.
More than likely what you’re viewing is for “face value”. What happens behind
the scenes of many situations is not as pretty as what you’re seeing right then
and there. In life we don’t want others to see how ugly and disturbed our
personal lives are. We try to cover it up and tie it with a bow on the surface.
As people we are ashamed if our lives are not as pieced together as we would
like it to be.
I can go further as to discuss how in everyday life the same
applies. Judgments are passed each and every day. In my opinion it comes from
insecurity, fear, and jealousy. For instance I don’t have to know anyone, which
is typical of going out into the world, and if there’s something about another
young woman that I want, lack, or just have a problem with for no reason then I
know I’m passing judgment. Sometimes it’s subconscious, other times on the
surface, and also quite frankly, just me having a rotten day or in a bad mood.
If we’re able to recognize why we judge each other so harshly we can regroup
our mindset and treat each other better. It could just be a human thing or the
way society has been taught to view each other. We do live in a country where
we still can’t find the common balance in our differences racially and
culturally. It may play a very significant role as to how we get jealous and
intolerable of each other’s personalities and corky ways.
I notice how we can’t deal with each other just by watching
my favorite shows every day and when I interact with people in my life. One of
the things that irritate me the most is when someone is talking and another
person is literally talking over them. Let me explain further. If you ask
someone a question and expect them to answer why would you wait until they
start talking to already be asking another question??? I don’t know what’s
going on with this society but if that isn’t rude I don’t know what the h*ll
is. As you can tell with my usage of profanity, it really heats my blood up.
Whatever happened to listening??? I
recall conversations of my past and through the people I’ve known there were
overly long-winded encounters to the point where I did multiple tasks with the
phone on speaker or just flat out fall asleep! I can understand how a thought
springs to mind and you want to share it before the conversation turns left,
but there is a difference between over-talking and forgetting there’s another
person on the other line, and just being chatty. It can come across as being
self-absorbed and rude. I like a good conversation. Especially if the topic is
something very interesting that can lead into other topics of discussion, much
like sub-categories of chatter. I love questions that allow you to give a
personalized deeply-rooted answer that is significant to the person as well as
someone else. Questions that can be asked the same exact way but everyone will
give their own unique answer based on their walks of life. That excites me!
Okay another way I experience judgment. I could be out anywhere
needing service of some kind and I’ll either encounter a warm personality or a
rotten one. Usually I’m encountering other females, sad to say in these
environments. You’re not exempt though fellas! I’ve encountered some pms males
out here too. I don’t know about you but I can meet someone and can tell almost
instantly if they’re going to be ugly towards me. Pay attention to the face.
The face tells so much. I usually see a transition. Also pay attention to what
you feel inside. If you don’t have the same feeling you felt before you shook
the person’s hand or placed your order, then more than likely you’re feelings
are correct. I won’t bypass the fact
that there are days when we’re not in the best mood. We don’t want to deal with
anyone, let alone get out of the bed, but we must depending on our daily
priorities [running errands and working ]. But what I’m mainly talking about is
when you’re out by yourself, one other person, or a group and you see the
interaction from a serviceman or servicewoman change from one person to you.
Then it becomes personal. Then you sit back and wait to see if they do little
subtle things to show they’re trying to create a blood bath with you. It’s a
shame to go out into the world and deal with these things but it is a part of
life. When you’ve had enough of being stepped on you’ll start piping up and
letting your voice be heard. I am typically a shy person by nature until you
get to know me. Then you must sound
the alarms. As I get older I see how important it is to speak up. It shows you
will not take crap off of anyone, you’re aware of what wrongfully has been done
to you, and you demand respect as a person.
I’ve learned to appreciate others’ differences even when it’s
annoying. We’re all different for a reason. No one is supposed to be like the
next person, society just pushes it to the limit. If we appreciate others for
their differences then it will be easier for us to appreciate our own selves. It’s
also easier to accept others for who they are if you’ve experienced a setback
in your life. I grew up in an environment where I wasn’t treated the best. I
was already shy so it made matters worse. As a kid I was bullied and ostracized
in my peer group and it made my growing up years difficult to handle. I couldn’t
wait to get out of school altogether only to find In the Adult world the same mistreatment
exists! It cannot be escaped so the only way to survive is to stand up to it
face to face with your vulnerabilities outward and the confidence to show, I AM good being me and I don’t care what you think. That’s how I’ve come to grips
with it. Go through something time and time again and watch your patience run
out. You will get so fed up and irritable that the true survivor in you will
come out. Aint takin’ no shit kinda person! In this life we meet sweet people
and we meet mean people. Sometimes we meet people with masks and we see 1
person one second and another the next. It’s all a big puzzle. But as long as
we appreciate ourselves we can judge each other less and find the great things
that each one of us possesses.
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